Happiness is nothing but a state of mind. Author and chef Candice Kumai shares her strategy of reassessing happiness levels, one day at a time.
"If you are not happy, perhaps you just need to re-think that framework in your brain," says Candice. "For years I have always pondered: Why do they have it all? How did she get so lucky? How is it possible that everyone else found love but myself? Where is he? Why am I still struggling financially? Why am I still struggling to be happy and content with where I am at? I am so lonely, I am so sad, woe is me... Well, I've had to do some serious reassessing with my life and I am improving every day, one day at a time. I'd love to share a bit of my strategy with you."
Here's Candice's tips for getting happy:
1. Let go
Let go of bitterness, let go of jealously and let go of all the negative space in your heart. For if you are holding on to the negative, how can you allow sunshine into your life? Letting go will free you your soul and allow your heart to open and make space for new dreams and positive endeavors to come to life, she says. "I know many of us are looking for love, something that I find to be a not-so-successful part of my life, however I repeat this quote to myself daily: 'If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; They will be waiting for you when you start doing the things you love.' In regards to finances: I once had another artist/friend tell me... 'Candice, God must love us so much; although we are broke in the bank, we are so rich in character, how lucky are we?' I never forgot that.
2. Work out Daily, For Endorphins are FREE
Did you know that moderate, daily exercise will give you the same endorphin release as any "happy pill"? I mean why not work-out for a killer, toned and slammin' body and at the same time, be happier? I'm a huge fan of free endorphins, so get into shape and do it because it makes you happy!
3. Laugh More
Hang out with that friend that cracks you up. Go watch a funny movie or go through an old album from college or high school. Whatever you need to do...just laugh more. Studies show that communities and social circles that get together and laugh, support and love one another on a weekly basis live longer healthier, happier lives. If you want more insight on life, longevity and true, deep-rooted cultural happiness, read 'The Blue Zones by Dan Buettner'. It will change the way you think and feel about the parallels between health and happiness, she says.
4. Be More Mindful
Be more mindful of yourself and others. Don't worry about the past, or what you think were "mistakes" or "failures." They are not. They are simply life's free lessons to shape and mold your heart, soul and beautiful mind. Live in the moment. Be there present at work. Live to reach out to others and make a difference. Live to be free! Be thoughtful, mindful and at the end of the day, when you are by yourself: Pour a cup of tea, zone out and read a good book, lay down on your soft, comfy pillow and say... 'Am I ok with who I am today? Am I fulfilling my life? What can I do to help improve my life?' Be mindful of you, your actions and live everyday in the moment.
5. Scream out: YOLO!
And do whatever you want! Remember the meaning behind the silly phrase: "YOLO," You only live once." There is so much more behind YOLO than we can even fathom. You have one life to live! There's nothing better to be happy about but living the life you've always dreamed of. If you don't accomplish all of your dreams and goals in this lifetime, then when will you?? When will you see ALL of those big dreams come to pass? YOLO.